(quote from RealReality.org/Real_Faith_and_Reason_Vol_3_-_Scientia.pdf)
Jesus directs, instructs, and transforms all who follow Him. We don’t always listen. And our discernment improves as we mature in Christ. However, God knows how to give the Holy Spirit to those who sincerely want the Holy Spirit and who are willing to die to their own fleshly natures.
(end quote)
